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Ashleigh Ogilvie-Lee

Blog 18 - From a Villa in Grey Lynn - A tribute to the friendship of Fleur Adcock and Diane McKegg.





Fleur Adcock one of New Zealand’s greatest poets died at the

end of last year (10 October 2024). She was my mother’s oldest

friend and because of that friendship I had the good fortune to

spend a day with her. This is a story of that remarkable day.


Mum (Diane McKegg) had given me strict instructions to go to

the door to get Fleur, as she says she is quite frail and I cannot

expect her to be waiting on the roadside.

I knock on the door, and she opens it, peering at me through

glasses with very thick lenses framed by undulating waves of

slightly oily white hair.  

“A clone of Diane,” she says.  

I say “Your sister (the novelist Marilyn Duckworth) bought my

house in Roxburgh Street in Wellington”

She says, “Why are you, not Diane, picking me up?”

I say, “Mum has a cold,” and the very word sends the famous

poet into a spin. “A cold, a cold! I can’t possibly get a cold! I

have to fly all the way to England on Friday, and I have such a

fear of colds that I only have to come near one, and it catches

me.”  


I feel I have betrayed Mum by associating her with such a

fearsome affliction and try to downplay it. “Well, it’s not that sort

of cold; it’s more an exhausted cold. Mum has a weakness for

this type of cold, but they don’t seem catchy as we never get

them.”  


We stand uncertainly, trying to decide whether to proceed with

this perilous expedition and then I follow her as she wanders

uncertainly down the hall. All the floors are wooden, with no

carpets, and the floorboards seem a bit haphazard.  


“Andrew, my son, did the floors himself,” says Fleur, “and now

he is selling the house.” The way she says it suggests that this

is the saddest thing Andrew could possibly do to his mother.  


She points to a small corner made up of windows with a dear

little armchair sitting in it. “Just look at that view of three extinct

volcanoes,” she says. “The laundry used to be here, but such a

view is wasted on a washing machine.”  


Fleur then sadly waves her arms around some original pastel-

coloured cupboards, saying the new owners will be such

philistines they will paint them. In the middle of the room is a

pristine round Deco Formica table with six perfect Deco chairs.

The villainous Andrew, she laments, is even planning to sell

this table. I ask if the chairs are comfortable, and she says, “Of

course, Marigold the cat sleeps on them.” Fleur gazes out over

the extinct volcanoes and points to a house that sits just

beneath Andrew’s.  


“In this house,” says Fleur, “lives Evie, the best friend of Rosa

(Andrew and Michelle’s later-in-life child). Poor Rosa will never

walk to school with Evie again when Andrew sells his house.”  


“Do you have a pen?” I ask.  


“Of course I have a pen,” snaps Fleur. “I am a writer.”  


She picks up her glasses and says, “What a bother!”  


I commiserate with her about failing eyesight and that her eyes

might not be what they once were. “Of course they’re not,” she

snorts. “I have macular degeneration, quite normal for my age,

and Marilyn, my sister, is as deaf as a post, and her deafness is

much worse than my blindness.”

At this point, Fleur decides the expedition will proceed and we

move to the front door.. 


I pause by an old sepia-coloured photo that hangs just to the

left of door. It is of a dark-skinned, frightfully handsome man. I

ask if it is Alistair Campbell, her ex-husband, (and another of

New Zealand’s most famous poets) but it is of Stuart, his older

brother, who was shot by friendly fire just before the war ended.

Fleur says quite brusquely that it was very common to be shot

by friendly fire. I actually know this, as I went to the Battle of

Long Tan with Gigi, and in one scene, men come running out of

the trees, and the Australians open fire. Some men fall to their

knees before one of the soldiers yells, “Cease fire, they’re our

boys.” The scene is indelibly sad, as is the sepia photo of

Stuart Campbell.  


Fleur climbs into the car, and Bella licks her undulating slightly

oily hair. She says, “I think a dog is licking my hair.”  


She tells me about Alistair Campbell. His dad was a Scotsman

called Jock, and his mother was a Penrhyn Islander called Teu

Bosini. They, along with their three children—Alistair, older

brother Stuart, and sister Margaret—lived in Rarotonga. Jock

worked for Boss McKegg (my grandfather and owner of the

Cook Islands Trading Company) on the boats that carried

goods to the outer islands. Fleur is very clear that Jock worked

for Boss, not the CITC. Teu died of TB when Alistair was

seven, and Jock died a year later of prostate cancer. The

children were sent to New Zealand but their grandmother

couldn’t care for them. They were put in an orphanage in

Dunedin, and Alistair could not speak much English and was

the butt of racial slurs. 


Fleur met Alistair at a party. She explains that at the time she

was dating, “in a chaste fashion,” another young man called

Barry Metcalfe, but she fell hopelessly and madly in love with

Alistair and married him at 18: “Silly girls like me, foolish

enough to marry what I wanted to be.” Her love for Alistair

could not compete with his attraction to other women, and he

left Fleur with whom he had had 2 sons for Meg with whom he

had a further three children. Meg told Fleur that she thought

Alistair was a wonderful lover, but Fleur never thought so; “so in

hindsight, it was for the best that he left,” she said.  


Fleur says Alistair was happy when he died, as all he wanted

was to be with Meg, who had died before him, and Fleur wrote

of his death, “Beautiful poet, goodbye.”  


I mention to Fleur what a strange twist of fate it was that she

and Mum, who became best friends at Wellington Girls, were

later to be connected historically through Jock Campbell and

Boss McKegg (Diane’s future father-in-law). Fleur says, “Yes,

the coachman and the squire.”  


I ask Fleur why she didn’t stay in New Zealand, and she says,

“It is a long story, but I married Barry Crump, and he was

notoriously famous, and every time we went anywhere people

would buy him ten beers, so I had to run far, far away from

him.”  


We arrive at Mum’s house, and Fleur exclaims, “There she is!”

and there is mum waiting by her garage door all dressed in

blue. She climbs into the back seat of the car and we set off for

the Louise Henderson (Mum’s mother) exhibition at the

Auckland Art Gallery. Fleur instructs Mum not to give her her

cold. Mum says in a rather feeble voice, “I am fine; I just don’t

feel like driving.” Fleur replies, “Well, I can drive. I got my

license after 90 lessons and three attempts when I was 49, and

then stopped 15 years ago, so it really was a small window of

opportunity.”  


She then tells Mum about Andrew’s wicked plan to sell his

house. She says she arrived at Parliament House to get the

Prime Minister’s Award for poetry. Her older son Gregory,

whom she calls “my green grass growing in a far plantation: my

first invention,” was there talking conspiratorially to Andrew. I

asked ,“What is going on?” and they told me “Andrew is selling

the house. And now I think, why did they tell me? I will never be

back. And I could have died without ever knowing that they had

sold the house.”  


Mum says, “Of course, you’ll be back. You keep saying you

won’t be back, and look, here you are again after just seven

months.” (Fleur was never to return to New Zealand.) 

“Yes,” says Fleur, “but I had to come to be hugged by Jacinda

and for my award and cheque, though it’s not a cheque these

days. I’m so sorry I couldn’t tell you I was coming, but I was

sworn to secrecy about my award. And then when the

announcement was made, no one was in the slightest bit

interested.”  


We then talk a bit about artificial intelligence, and Fleur says

she read H.G. Wells in her bed when she was ten years old

and she has no intention of being ruled by aliens, and she is

not responsible for the world as it is.  

After the exhibition, I drive Mum and Fleur to mum’s house as

they will have an hour or so before going to Carl and Kay

Stead’s for dinner.  


“We will have a cup of tea,” Mum announces from the back

seat, “or a glass of wine.”  

“Oh no, not wine,” says Fleur. “I gave up wine, coffee, meat,

and dairy when I got an ulcer on the tail end of a bout of

salmonella caught from chicken that had sat too long in the sun

of Newcastle. Newcastle is not used to hot temperatures.

But my greatest achievement in life was stopping smoking

when I was 64.”  


But I think Fleur’s greatest achievement is this:


The Three-toed Sloth


The three-toed sloth is the slowest creature we know

for its size. It spends its life hanging upside-down

from a branch, its baby nestling on its breast.

It never cleans itself, but lets fungus grow

on its fur. The grin it wears, like an idiot clown,

proclaims the joys of a life which is one long rest.

The three-toed sloth is content. It doesn’t care.

It moves imperceptibly, like the laziest snail

you ever saw blown up to the size of a sheep.

Disguised as a grey-green bough it dangles there

in the steamy Amazon jungle. That long-drawn wail

is its slow-motion sneeze. Then it falls asleep.

One cannot but envy such torpor. lts top speed,

when rushing to save its young, is a dramatic

fourteen feet per minute, in a race with fate.

The puzzle is this, though: how did nature breed

a race so determinedly unenergetic?

What passion ever inspired a sloth to mate?






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